Unfortunately, you cannot and should not force anyone to do something that they do not wish to do. You can try to get to know this man better by spending more time with him; perhaps he will eventually grow to like you. If he really is not interested in you, however, it might be healthier for you to move on to a different man.
I always had a hard time figuring out what motivates a man to approach and hang around (besides a woman’s “hotness”, but I think there is more going on)…do we send out the wrong signals and not even know it?  So, I’m pleased to share with you some expert thoughts on the subject…I knew I’d get some interesting feedback, and they did not disappoint.
And just a word of advice, you bitching or moaning here won’t change a way a guy thinks. And you commenters can’t change a guy’s view just by claiming guys should like unfeminine girls instead of feminine girl!
“Matthew’s methods are working… Those who would previously never dream of going up to a man are hunting them down in double figures. Phone numbers are collected like the spoils of victory… [We become] an army of women from whose charms no man is safe.” (Emma Messenger, The Daily Mail)
Fly on the Wall, you are welcome to pay for everyone’s bill. You can pay for mine!! I treat my friends very well, I am just particular about what I want and as a woman, I have the right to determine that.
This is difficult though… So, you can always give your male friend my website too. There are many tips in my archives and many more to come, which can help him make you feel passion for him. Therefore, you can feel passion for the more local choice and win all the way around.
Perfume is actually something that a lot of women over do. Most men do not like very strong perfume. You’re better off sticking with something very light and being very conservative with how much you spray.
It would be extremely difficult to find a man who does not find this to be an insane turn on. I won’t really go into this further but I think what I said speaks for itself. Do it in the way that feels comfortable for you and only if it feels comfortable.
Your vibe is determined by what you’re truly, honestly feeling at the moment. That means that even if you tell yourself you’re in a great mood, if you’re honestly flustered, upset, or nervous it will come through in your vibe.
A downside: the book directs you to online videos for more “secrets” which are really just teasers which lead you to another video they want you to pay for. I can see this as being an endless goose chase designed to keep you hooked & shelling out money while learning very little. I’d have more respect for the author & brand if they took a less scam-like approach. The video they want you to buy has a long intro to sell it which does the classic “play on women’s insecurities & promise grand secrets to solve all of their romance problems in a matter of days” approach, one which many dating gurus do. I find it borderline insulting & I naturally expect it to under-deliver with super obvious “insight” repeated ad nauseam just as the rest seem to. This approach is unfortunate & detracts from a brand that has the potential to be more positive & actually useful, as opposed to the insulting junk I described at the outset.
The trick to attracting men is to make sure you value all the other areas of your life (for example your job, your family, your friends, your hobbies, etc) just as highly as you value having a man in your life.
Plus, nothing makes a man feel worse than to feel stuck in a problem he just can’t solve so if you’re unhappy too often, at some level, he’s failed and he will try to distance himself from feeling like a failure. By contrast, nothing makes a man feel successful like you when you are happy — which is why a positive, happy and radiant woman is so appealing.
5. Looks don’t matter. I know it sounds corny but It isn’t the outside that matters, it’s the inside, but since I don’t take into account the physical attributes that someone doesn’t have control over then neither should my partner.
Well, with five brothers in your life, some of this stuff might seem “unique”….but it’s really quite universal—though less so nowadays. However, it’s all great fun! Here’s to our feminine side. Nice to have you stop by Jewels. (Great name)
Follow the Golden Rule. That means apply the same rules to yourself that you’d apply to others, including him. Real men do in fact notice this; they just don’t scream it out. For example, if he tells you he has a girlfriend and things are not working out, Stop! and think ladies and gentlemen that this could be a “test” on how you would handle the situation, so stand your ground and cut off communication (hint: “Golden Rule”). Second example: if you do want to try finding his ticklish spots, then don’t complain one bit if he tries finding yours in return. Don’t go on about how you “don’t NEED no man!” or about “men this, men that” if you don’t want him treating you the same way. DO, on the other hand, treat him–and others–with respect, dignity, and honor. Others will notice, too, and who knows–if they know you want a good, real man but don’t yet have one, they just might introduce you to one!
Willing to do whatever it takes to make a man attracted to you? Then, you are in the right place. Here are 5 ways to effectively attract men that such as using your smile that that has never been put this simple.
And no testosterone laden guy can resist the allure of a sweet Asian girl when he’s having a conversation with her. Everything about them makes them appear more beautiful and feminine, right from their cute heart signs with inverted hands, the way they nod their heads, the way they behave while having a conversation with you to the way they smile coyly and yet so warmly.
Give places and things you associate with past relationships a new meaning. Have a girls’ night at the restaurant that reminds you of an ex, hold an impromptu dance party to “our song” or curl up with a date to that movie you thought you could never watch again.
First off, you have to be sure your friend is gay or bi, or he won’t want to have sex with you at all. If that’s the case, communication is key. Be frank and serious about it, but also make sure he knows that you’ll be gentle and let him set the pace. Make sure he feels safe, secure, and relaxed with you.
Does sending a facebook message to a random guy you just met in person look really desperate? I decided to take the plunge, and he replied but I’m still worried I look ‘desperate’. How do I play it cool?
I actually AM one of those cute and feminine girls. I ‘ve always been. Here’s some personal experiences for y’all: I once dated a guy with not so much testosterone (he was a skinny guy who was a complete NERD). It sucked, we had nothing to connect to, and he eventually dumped me for a more “dominant” girl. Now, I have a guy who is LOADED with testosterone (and he’s attractive), who likes me. Whenever I get cold, he offers his jacket. When I’m scared or upset, he does everything in his power to make me happy. People say he’s fallen quite hard for me, and I don’t blame him!
My friend Marla used to believe that meeting a man was as easy as following her bliss. After she and her long-term boyfriend broke up, Marla decided to pursue the interests she had neglected when she was in a relationship. She took acting lessons, joined a book club, and became devoted to yoga.
Smile: Dealmaker. If you ever find a guy out of your league, just flash a smile, he will respond. Every man responds to a genuine smile. And again, not looking for a Madhuri Dixit here. Just flash those gorgeous gems and see the magic!!
“Men seemed to have a heightened sense of the precariousness of the male gender role,” says University of South Florida psychologist Jennifer Bosson, the paper’s lead author. “We haven’t found many men willing to admit that my manhood is often in question, but when you ask men in general if manhood is something that’s easy to lose and hard to attain, they agree that’s the case.” Or, as the Kinsey Institute’s Julia Heiman puts it: “Heterosexual men have a little trouble saying they really like kissing and cuddling.”
If you’re a girl that likes to joke around then you’re definitely in advantage if wondering how to attract men. And if you are serious, than just loosen up a bit, you don’t have to be a stand-up comedian for a guy to think you’re funny.
A really good friend of mine is the more ‘agressive and dominant’ type, and I noticed that attractive guys were going after her. I was a bit envious at first, but then I found out they were just using her. There is this ONE guy who doesn’t have much testosterone, but he truly loves and cares about her.
The solution – looking for a good partner, not a perfect one. There are simply better and worse partners out there. Some are more fit for a relationship than others. There is not, however, a “perfect and unique fit” for each of us. The best that can be hoped for is finding a reasonably-compatible person, who will be willing to cooperate, and working with them to create a mutually-satisfying exchange. Yes, this is far less romantic…but it works!
Rewrite your online dating profile from scratch; working with a blank page will get you thinking about what you really want. Then keep it updated, often—Casey, also Match.com’s relationships expert, says to keep it active, like your Facebook profile. “You change your résumé for every job—so you should be changing your online profile picture to show you on a recent ski trip, or talk about the newest movie you’ve seen. You need to be putting things out there that people will respond to, not just ‘Looking for someone with great eyes.'” And if you’ve yet to take the online dating plunge, c’mon, it’s 2013: The stigma is so 2008.
The type of woman that I would want emotionally, a feminine woman who is grateful, nurturing, etc, is not exactly compatible with “independent woman”. The type of woman I’d want for a life partner isn’t compatible with an independent woman’s ideals.

Actually, a .220 batting average doesn’t seem all that good… But why would a woman want a man who is so easily manipulated (led around by his johnson) merely by a woman’s smile in the first place? Isn’t he just going to buzz off to the next flower which happens to smile at him, easy-come-easy-go fashion?
I agree with this article mostly a few things I don’t agree with but everyone has there own opinion. I haven’t been single since I was 14 and let me tell you 14 and 15 I didn’t have anyone to be that serious with me because I acted to tomboyish I thought that was what guys liked plus I was still pretty imature. Before I go any further, I just wanted to say yes I sometimes think to myself I wish I would of gave single a chance more often in my life instead of being so young and boy crazy but I wouldn’t take it back any of it because it did make me learn what type of man I wanted after dating boys, it made me realize what type of man I wanted in the long run. I turned 16 I started to act more cute, flirty and girly and I started to get the guys I wanted instantly. Now I am 23 and I have the man of my dreams he is HOT! caring sweet understanding and still at the same time very manly I love it I never thought this kind of man existed I thought men like him were too snooty and had there eyes closed so why would they notice a women like me. I was always a social butterfly. 6 months ago I found this man and I couldn’t believe how he just fell completly head over heels for me. I am alot more girly now adays where I am flirty but with him smiling and laughing all the time and I show my girly side, but I also love to go fishing and out doorsy and don’t mind doing guy things with him and he really loves that about him. He is very thoughtful on top of being a hottie I have always had men be rude to me in my past maybe because I have a little insecurity or just need someone to talk to so I’d call a best friend to talk or my mom so I could talk and wouldn’t make them mad. Now I have a partner who is my best friend and the person I need to talk with and it’s fantastic. If I feel a little insecure he’s loving to me he understands I am just afraid at times the relationships going to disapear or change and it’s because it still feels like a dream because he is my dream come true so it’s like I just feel as if anyone pinches me to wake me up from this dream I am going to rip there heads off he he jk lol! but seriously I couldn’t believe I am the first women he has ever moved in with because he’s never been this serious with anyone where he wanted a life with them and that makes me feel very lucky since he has been with a various of women and could of chose any of them but its like once he found me he knew exactly what he wanted a family a life time with me. so like I said I believe this article because I have lived it.
I find that I am drawn to women that are creative and artistic; I tend to be a nuts and bolts kind of person, circuit boards and hard drives rule my day.  Having a woman that can make sure I’m getting my appropriate dosages of culture is nice. Sometimes these women are easy to spot; there’s a place I go to called the Gypsy Den and I tell you, these creative female types are all over… Though, they kinda look like they walked out of some sort of hippy people loving commune…
The key to a great first date is picking a fun, inexpensive, casual activity that allows you to talk but also keeps you busy. We’ve come up with 50 fun first date ideas for you and 50 gentlemen–or maybe just you and Adam Sandler.
By far the easiest and simplest way to invite a man to come into your kingdom. Men are more intimidated than ever to approach women in the 21st Century. Why? You all can do just as much as we can now, so we are lacking the confidence that our forefathers had when roles were more clearly defined. A warm smile can ignite a man’s courage to walk up to you.
I think my biggest deficiency is that I am old fashioned, I like being spoiled by a potential mate. I have had great relationships with men who are traditional – opening doors for me, paying for dinner, not asking for me to go dutch when I am trying to determine suitability. I am not stingy, I spoil those men as well…and I always tell the men in my life how much I appreciate them. I remember the birthdays of all my friends, for example.
Now I am not saying to go out in stripper heels and a nonexistent dress that shows almost your entire body. Unless this is what you like and it makes you feel good, but don’t do that because you think it’s going to make men more attracted to you.
The “local friend” wasn’t just a friend. He was more than a friend. You don’t need to be having sexual relations, or even kissing to cheat. Hanging out 1-on-1 with someone of the opp-sex who is knowingly into you, while you liking that, and continuing to SEE them — is crossing the lines of couple-hood.
Significantly more men approached when the woman smiled (22% vs. 4%). According to Gueguen (2008), this is due to the fact that men are looking for a woman to show interest in them as a clear signal to approach. The women who make eye contact AND smile give such a clear signal. So, if you want a man to notice you and approach, make eye contact and smile!
My children’s father and myself broke up 8 years ago and we have recently rekindled our love, however I am also dealing with the fact that he has another child which is pretty much why we broke up in the first place, I will admit him and I were 20 when we met and we hadn’t yet grown up I’ve learned alot through the years him and I were apart, I never thought we would ever feel anything for one another again, but we do…. I love that man so much but it’s very difficult for me to see him dealing with his other child’s mothe, I feel as though he’s hiding me from her because she doesn’t know about us, I want this man to be my husband when the time is right, sometimes I get confused and I wonder if he loves me the same, I know he does but I wonder how much! I’m trying to get the ring, I’ve been dealing with him for 10 years and I want him to pop the question! ??????? I don’t want to waste my time, what do u suggest??? My mind is beginning to wonder and I’m sensing myself going into survival mode, I don’t want to be that way even though he hurt me years ago, I want to keep the past behind and focus on getting my ring and the future, hopefully he is included in what I’ve always wanted!
I don’t know about you guys, but I hardly ever meet guys in regular life situations. You may have noticed that most of the dating escapades I tell you about are of the online persuasion. Which is fine, and I’ll continue to try that angle, but it would be nice once in a while to just meet a guy the old-fashioned way, right? (By old-fashioned I mean like, at a bar. Not an arranged marriage or anything.)
Roxelana, called Hürrem Sultan, entered the harem of Süleyman the Great as a Ukrainian slave, when she was only 15. She quickly beat out all of her gorgeous and numerous competitors. Her joyful spirit and playful temperament earned her a new name, Hürrem, from Persian Khorram, “the cheerful one”. In the Istanbul harem, her influence over the Sultan soon became legendary. She was allowed to give birth to more than one son which was a stark violation of the old imperial harem principle, “one concubine mother — one son.”
Make a vow to never be cheap with yourself ever again. Ignore prices on menus. Stop waiting for sales. Invest in yourself at the highest level possible, whatever that looks like for you. Don’t be irresponsible with your finances, but stop denying yourself pleasures that will make you feel special and successful. You are both.
Lol. Well, nomad spirit, if a good guy sees that everyone has to climb over you to find a seat or a place to stand, who knows what he may be thinking. That being said, most people have their heads buried in a computer whilst in-transit. You just happen to be the one who sits on the floor. 😉
Guys don’t like fake women so try to remember that. What attracts men the most is a woman who doesn’t pretend to be something else, so that a guy would like her, but is herself. You don’t need to pretend you are anything you are not.
Flirting is much like a smile. It lets a man know you’re interested. It tells a man you accept him and are pleased with him. It makes a man feel at ease around you, thereby making you more approachable and increasing the chance a guy will ask you out.
A man prefers a partner who can understand him, someone he can lean on and trust her opinion. Someone he can engage with in an intellectual discussion. Opinionated and organised female thinker will definitely gain not just his affection but also his respect.
But men of the long-term persuasion were as happy to hear the words after sex as women were; when they said “I love you,” they meant what women meant. Mark Twain once said the difference between the right and wrong word is the difference between lightning and lightning bug; the difference between the right and wrong commitment context appears to be the difference between love and lover.