But to call this desire universal is to ignore a great deal of competing information. While men in developed societies go numb for sinuous curves, those in many developing countries surrender to a larger, more parallel contour. Plumpness may be a sign of poor health in the West, but elsewhere it’s a sign that a woman has access to money and food. Some cultures even prefer a body type that health experts consider clinically overweight. And when a man changes culture, he adjusts his preferred measurements accordingly.
Negativity.  Nothing drains me more than a woman who is perpetually negative, with a bad attitude.  One of my exes was so keen to rag on her co-workers; it was the bulk of what we’d talk about.  She would make fun of these people, if she wasn’t doing that she was worried about how someone wronged her at work… Man, I couldn’t deal.  When she would come by, she’d immediately hop into bed and not for any “bounce house” antics either.  You don’t realize how much a negative person drains from you until you’ve kicked them to the curb!
Just move on and find someone you can respect and appreciate just the way he is right now. If he wants your help, he’ll ask for it. The right guy for you deserves to feel like he’s your hero. If you can’t offer that, he’s not your guy.
This is why the book had some good advice & was worth the read – the basic idea is how to communicate who you are, how you feel, and what you expect accurately & in a way that is understood by men. So it’s not about changing who you are so much as really communicating it more clearly. If you’re the kind of girl whose friends & family & co-workers wonder why you’re single because they think you’re the bees knees, but for someone reason men you meet/briefly date aren’t valuing you the same way, then this might be a helpful read. You’re probably not sending the signals which communicate who YOU are correctly; you’re leaving false & bad impressions. So the book is really about being MORE yourself with communication that others understand & which creates the desired effect.
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Face: Ask a guy the definition of cuteness/beauty. I can guarantee there will be one face where you can’t find the ‘beauty’ word anywhere. But they still love that face, the spots, the freckles and every little imperfection on it. Maybe beautiful eyes, crooked nose or deep dimples. They can find something so weird in the face, so beautiful, it blows your mind.
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I’ll do anything to make my wife/girlfriend happy, and in return I want to be loved. This is not a deal! This is what I call connection (mutual or whatever!) For a man having romance, being appreciated, being respected, … means nothing if he doesn’t feel to be loved.
But some things have changed. One re-creation of the classic study, which was conducted by an international group of researchers and published in Human Nature, found that men are much more likely to date a woman than they had been in 1989. Although the updated study was conducted on paper, not in person, it included a larger and more diverse population of men, and it varied the attractiveness of the sex solicitor. More men were willing to date a “slightly unattractive” woman than were willing to sleep with an “exceptionally attractive” woman, 87 percent to about 82.
Well, hello brake12. It’s true that some women are naturals. The good news is that good habits can be learned with enough commitment. It’s worth the extra effort–for sure!. Also, Aubrey, I thank you for pinning. I’m delighted that you enjoyed the hub.
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Be approachable to them — don’t make them think you like them. Take it easy and flirt a little. Or even maybe ask if he’s interested in boys. If he says no, move on. If he says yes, maybe even ask him on a date or kiss him.
If you want to attract anyone – wear red or pink, be confident and believe in the beauty that is you inside and out and think positive and smile. It’s that simple. Games only last so long. Go to places you normally would not go and take routes on the way home you would not normally take. Get out of a routine. Be brave, be fearless, don’t be afraid to try. You will have fun and discover more about yourself than you realize.
Personality and a sense of humor are pretty huge to me and, I imagine, every Tom, Dick and Harriet out there.  If a girl can make me laugh that’s really a great start.  I also am drawn to women that have a personality that commands attention; you know she’s in a room, hard to ignore, the personality is warm and welcoming.  She gets attention without really trying, to me, that’s incredibly sexy.

It is not easy for people to find a good man, and to be honest it is not easy for a man to find a good person. This is written from a man’s perspective to help frustrated people that are sincerely looking for a good man but keep finding losers.
Attracting men has everything to do with our “aura” or the quality we emanate. In fact, whenever you come across a man whose attention you want to attract, you may be surprised to discover that you don’t have to do all that much when you’re around him. It’s all about how you do whatever you’re doing in that moment when an interesting man is nearby. As the French say, it’s all about your “je ne sais quoi,” (that indefinable, intangible quality that makes something distinctive or attractive) The truth is, most men are going to sum you up in a few short seconds, before you even have a chance to say, “Hello.” Consequently, it is important that you maintain an awareness of the image you are projecting in each given moment.
Breaking up is hard to do, but with your favorite ice cream, a warm blanket, and a few of the best breakup songs on the radio, it can be just a little bit better. We’ve compiled a list of some of our favorite cry-your-eyes-out, sing-through-the-pain songs to get you back out there in the dating pool.
Sure, men see themselves as superior, even though they are willing to give up a good amount of their day because they want to provide for their family/wife. Also, It is very abusive to give women flowers and chocolates, and pay for dates, and do chivalrous things. (before women didn’t want chivalry anymore) All men ask in return for doing all this is for a woman to show love, gratefulness, and nurturing. Yeah, that’s so selfish and abusive. Call the excessive love police.
There’s plenty of resources online about improving your sex life, so I’m not going to get into it here. All I’ll say is that loving sex and loving sex with him helps a relationship a lot, and is something that shouldn’t be ignored.
Now as for what I desire, I will tell you, but honestly I’m just doing it to show you how the desires of a gender can’t easily be generalized and that the can contrast greatly depending on an individual.
Yes. I actually just wrote this cliché. I can’t believe I am even writing it but it’s such a concise way to describe one of the most attractive things to most men: a woman who is presentable and one way when she’s interacting with the world but behind closed doors brings out an entirely different wild, sexual side.
The kindle version is only $9, and if this book was sent to the top of the charts on Amazon or on various best selling booklists it would send a massive wake-up call to the culture about men and their opinions and feelings in the dating game rather than Kay Hymowitz’s bullshit “Manning Up” or Hanna Rosin’s even worse “The End of Men.”
If your past relationships have caused you to hold back or put up a wall, then it’s going to be extremely difficult to become an irresistible woman. You’re already at a disadvantage because you’re putting off a vibe that tells men, “I’ll only let you get so close.”
Bullsh1t. There is no ‘typical’ feminist who is into the manipulation and acting suggested by this article because those things are universally offensive and suggest, like dress codes and curfews for women, that men are not thinking creatures but only life support systems for a set of gonads. Feminism is about being yourself, not buying into some b.s. and outdated cultural meme.
A regular man who isn’t suffering from low testosterone would always find a feminine woman more attractive than a woman who thinks femininity is overrated and displays traits that are traditionally considered manly.
I agree with the author. As a girl I would watch the guys at my highschool and I would notice that the “girly-girls” or the more feminine ones always got the hot-jock type guys. I was always on the more non-feminine side until one of my friends (a guy) mentioned that guys liked “cute” girls. It made them feel more manly. I tried acting more girly and guess what, I got a boyfriend.
I always had a hard time figuring out what motivates a man to approach and hang around (besides a woman’s “hotness”, but I think there is more going on)…do we send out the wrong signals and not even know it?  So, I’m pleased to share with you some expert thoughts on the subject…I knew I’d get some interesting feedback, and they did not disappoint.
Hi, I tried to buy the attract any man video and the 4 other free things that were offered but the button did not appear. Can you send me a personal link so I may purchase it? Thank you! Cheryl, Canada.
For example, I’ve known women who constantly point their forks at the person they’re sitting across from while dining. I assume they do this automatically, out of habit. What I do know is that this pointing the fork thing is really distracting, not to mention “tacky.” No one wants a fork pointed right at their face. It’s annoying. This may seem like a nitpicky, tiny thing, but it really does matters how you eat, how you talk, and even if you point.
my relationship is ended near 5 months ago, and I am madly in love with my ex, we had so much good time together which made him so special to me..same sense of humor and every new things we had experiencing when we were together…he dumped me for stupid reasons like we need to focus on studying (we are both in collage), we need to forget everything, he was saying that we were just friends and nothing happened between us (he asked me to kiss him on 1st date, which it was too early for me to do so, so he kinda got upset at that), any ways, I really miss him not because he is ignoring me or so, I just want him back, I tired to msg him but it was just back fire,he just ignores and when he replies back its just harsh msg that he is so busy and so on…being honest with you I am kind girl.. never tired to break his heart or anything like that..I don’t know if he really misses me or wants me or he is just playing games on me…its so confusing and not right, people tell me he wasn’t nice guy, he was trash and so on, but still inside me I feel they are all wrong and he wasn’t that bad…I miss him so much, its just kinda of feels so bad when I think he doesn’t think about me even a bit and ignores me so much for no reason…hurts more than can be describe…