After reading this book, you will not only get the guy, but you’ll actually get him. You will understand how men think and what they’re looking for. Attracting the right guy is about being confident in who you are and the value you bring to the table—so you can find a guy who’s as great of a catch as you are!
So there you have it – the 8 things every guy wants in a woman. If you’ve got any questions, or you disagree with anything I’ve written, go ahead and drop me a line in the comments! I love to talk about this stuff.
Here is some great news for those women who are resigned to the myth that all men cheat — infidelity and “a roaming eye” are as distasteful to men as they are to women. Great men know how to build a wonderful relationship, and they know fidelity is the main ingredient.
Again, dating is a process. Yes…it is also emotional. But, beyond the feelings, you are also “picking” a compatible person, who will work with you as a partner, for mutual satisfaction. Therefore, dating does become something of a job interview…
When you follow this as outlined, it all adds up to something magical. When you embody a love of his Masculinity with your Appreciation for who he is, add in some Gratitude, a Nurturing spirit, an Easy-going nature, an ability to be Trustworthy, and honor his Independence all while captivating him — it all adds up to one thing. The final S is for Soulmate because that’s what you’ll have found.
Bullsh1t. There is no ‘typical’ feminist who is into the manipulation and acting suggested by this article because those things are universally offensive and suggest, like dress codes and curfews for women, that men are not thinking creatures but only life support systems for a set of gonads. Feminism is about being yourself, not buying into some b.s. and outdated cultural meme.
The solution – figuring out what is desired and where to get it. Create a rough “job description” for a good partner. Figure out where that type of person can be found. Look for those characteristics and test people on them. Continue to enjoy dating – but don’t forget the end goal either!
If we are complex—still admittedly if—we don’t like to show it. Sometimes our emotional side is so hidden researchers can’t find it. A notable mid-’90s study by evolutionary psychologists found that when you ask people what type of infidelity will upset them, men say a sexual tryst more than women, and women an emotional affair more than men. That’s Mars and Venus in galactic alignment.
And of course, as everyone knows, like attracts like. As Margaret Paul, Ph.D said: “People attract each other at their common level of woundedness or their common level of health.” It’s easier and gets better long-term results to fix the core problem than to practice acting.
one word BS! Im obviously never gonna attract anyone then, im a strong woman and would never change who i am to plz a man or up my chances of attracting one, cos what will happen, that guy will eventually see though ur facade and either take a disliking to u cos u werent wat he expected or that u acted and played him to win him over, i can see a guy ever respecting a girl like that
Anyway, again, you were cheating — even with a guy who you’re not all that sexually attracted to. There’s never an attraction measuring stick to determine whether it’s cheating or not. You wouldn’t have wanted the same situation on your LD Boyfriend’s end. At all.
If you’re a girl that likes to joke around then you’re definitely in advantage if wondering how to attract men. And if you are serious, than just loosen up a bit, you don’t have to be a stand-up comedian for a guy to think you’re funny.

I have heard Matthew Hussey speak on the radio and I was looking forward to reading his book, bu I was dissapointed to learn that after every chapter I had to sign in to the websiteand become a paid member in order to look t th video that accompanied each chapter……I felt thi was more of a pay as you go long “help book” than anyhing else…….I was extremely dissapointed and expected more from the author…….
Response: Honestly, it depends on the man. I personally can be pretty selfless in nature, this is because I don’t like to be ignorant. Being selfless is something that helps me in not being ignorant, so I find it to be a very good trait for others to have, being insecure can be a helpful thing and creating false confidence in yourself can be dangerous. It isn’t bad to have confidence and be secure in yourself when you are in a position that makes you feel like that, as long as you don’t let it all get to your head and you begin to undermind others. It is expected that people who aren’t secure in their knowledge of how others will respond to them will seek out how to elicit a response from others that they desire. That is how being insecure helps you find answers because you must understand that you don’t know everything, so you can’t be confident in yourself if you really don’t know what you must do.
Often while walking the streets of Manhattan I adjust both the pace and position of my stride so as to follow close behind, but not illegally close behind, an attractive woman. I must stress here to my girlfriend and mother that I do not do this to admire the view. All right, so partly I do this to admire the view. But another part of me likes to observe the reactions we—we’re a caravan, now—receive from the menfolk we pass. To walk this way is to witness the spasmodic necks and detoured eyes and high-pitched whistled salutes and deep, perfumed inhalations and even, at times, affected indifference that together form the grand choreography of male desire. The performance is a haphazard one, and far creepier to the audience than to the actors, but it remains sincere as instinct.
Bottom line is don’t rush things! Eventually she/he will be there to catch your eye. Give it a try. Things may not be perfect how you can imagine them to be but if you can live with their little flaws and care deeply about the person then you will feel in your heart that she/he is the right one for you. I was just looking at the wrong places at first and never will regret my children. Things happen for a reason and to learn from our mistakes.
Every time you have sex with this guy, you are falling in more deeply in love with him, giving yourself false hope. The fact is, you are second-best to him, a backup plan. When he feels like getting laid, he will always know you are available, and when you need him, he will not be there. In a relationship, both parties should benefit from it, not just one. You deserve better.
If you decide you still want to be with him even though he cheated, then you truly need to forgive and then be open to moving forward. That means accepting what happened, getting any answers you need from him to set your heart and mind at ease so you can move forward, and then being able to forgive.
Secondly, always try to wear clothes that are somewhat form fitting, but not too tight and never baggy – you don’t want to look like you’re revealing too much or hiding too much. In other words, give the sweats and the shapeless dress a break every now and again, and wear something pretty. Also, don’t worry if you are carrying some extra weight. You can still show your curves!
My children’s father and myself broke up 8 years ago and we have recently rekindled our love, however I am also dealing with the fact that he has another child which is pretty much why we broke up in the first place, I will admit him and I were 20 when we met and we hadn’t yet grown up I’ve learned alot through the years him and I were apart, I never thought we would ever feel anything for one another again, but we do…. I love that man so much but it’s very difficult for me to see him dealing with his other child’s mothe, I feel as though he’s hiding me from her because she doesn’t know about us, I want this man to be my husband when the time is right, sometimes I get confused and I wonder if he loves me the same, I know he does but I wonder how much! I’m trying to get the ring, I’ve been dealing with him for 10 years and I want him to pop the question! ??????? I don’t want to waste my time, what do u suggest??? My mind is beginning to wonder and I’m sensing myself going into survival mode, I don’t want to be that way even though he hurt me years ago, I want to keep the past behind and focus on getting my ring and the future, hopefully he is included in what I’ve always wanted!
Lastly, a gal that doesn’t take care of herself.  This is partly tied to appearance, truth be told.  A woman that doesn’t take good care of herself physically is more prone to be lacking in other areas of her life, too.  There’s a lot of fixing up to be done, in some cases.  If a woman is fine being out of shape and not taking care of herself and has no other issues, that’s okay, too.  However, I want a woman that cares about her well being and physical health as much as I care about my own; it’s as simple as that.
A man usually feels cautious around overdressed and overrated woman. He knows how much the perfume she’s wearing costs but he prefers to breathe fresh air. He dreads breaking her long witchy black nails during an intimate encounter, so he prefers to hang out with a woman he can touch without fear.
Be a woman who makes him feel great about himself and makes him feel needed. Men love the girls who play to their ego and make them feel like Superman. If a guy doesn’t understand how he is needed in your life, he won’t fall in love with you.
If it’s up to a man to protect and provide for his woman and family, what is it that he wants and needs from her in return? Simply put, a woman’s beauty and grace attracts a man and is often demonstrated in her innate ability as a nurturer or caretaker.
What I’ve found is that once you’re in your 30s, groups of friends thin out — many get married, move away, etc. You essentially should beget more friendships, save time by cutting out your hobbies and working out at home some of the time to save time on gong to & being at the gym.
10. Your Own Home. Throwing parties is one of the best ways to get yourself into the dating scene. Even if you don’t meet an eligible bachelor at your own shindig, becoming the hostess with the mostest will naturally get you reciprocally invited to barbecues, wine-tastings, poetry readings, etc. And if a friend does bring along a handsome stranger to your next house party, you have ample reasons to chat him up. After all, he’ll need you to take his coat, fetch him a drink, and tell you where he’s been all your life.
Men want to be with a woman who needs them on more than just a superficial level. A man wants to feel like he’s your hero and your protector. If he feels he offers nothing to the relationship that you couldn’t have on your own, then he will leave.
Long story short, please realize that meeting worthwhile men is not so complicated after all. Catching the attention of men has everything to do with our way of being, our mannerisms, our enjoyment of life, and our femininity. This is what it means to create an “aura of beauty.” Today, you can begin attracting men the natural, uncomplicated way. You don’t have to wait another day. Start exploring your natural charm. Be a class-act. Trust me when I say that he is dying to know the “beguiling you.” He would love nothing better than to be drawn in by your lovely self, the one who is as natural and fascinating as the space you so graciously inhabit.
What an eye-opener, i hate it when men act desperate with me and yet when I like I guy sometimes I can act so desperate around them and its so true that its caused by panic, from now on all panic is banished!
Other individuals rely on luck, fate, or destiny. Because they believe the process is more-or-less out of their hands, they may not put much work into it. They might not look hard. They might not build themselves up to be better people and more valuable partners. Instead, they may believe someone will simply be their “soul mate” and “love them exactly as they are”.
I am an ASIAN woman f, love it not because of anything, love that comes from habit, from the eye to the brain and the mind to the heart, that true love is pure in mind and heart, it is a gift, because it raised an expectation of love and sacrifice, and if do not be afraid to sacrifice love romance, and believe me mate is actually a reflection jiwa.per confident love yourself, do not be hung with the hard work of others, success with hard work and effort, not the passenger name.
Beyond that, if you have female friends, keeping their company can also help you attract other women. This is a bit different though. Rather than being seen as a dominant male by joking with other men, you will be seen as a valuable male by having other women already choose to be in your company. This is called “mate choice copying” in the literature. Women generally prefer and take notice of men who are approved of by other women… So, if you have female friends, hang out with them too…
I agree with this article he makes good points and I can work on some things but overall I do a good job of this naturally and i find the stereotypes mentioned to be pretty much all true who cares what he points out if it’s pretty much true,… don’t hate on the author for speaking the truth! I agree with all the men’s comments on here too , and what I like most is that a MAN wrote this ….that validates this article …women on here who were angry : why are u so mad at what men want ? One guy commented why try to change science …so true !
I’ve heard men say, “It almost seemed as if she floated across the room, and I couldn’t take my eyes off of her.” That is the kind of attention you want to aim for. Wherever you happen to be, when you are walking, if you’re not owning that space, something is wrong. Walking well gives you “presence” and charisma. A quality man is attracted to a woman who walks beautifully. When you are in “best walk” mode, rest assured, you are turning heads. A focused, yet relaxed stride is a valuable and easy tool you must use to get him to notice you right away. Do not walk too slowly, or too fast… just a good even stride.
It is not easy for people to find a good man, and to be honest it is not easy for a man to find a good person. This is written from a man’s perspective to help frustrated people that are sincerely looking for a good man but keep finding losers.