Start with innocent touches and be very nonchalant and natural when you do it. For example, if you are sitting next to each other, you could kind of inch a tiny bit closer to him and have your leg against his leg and don’t say a word about it, just enjoy the moment. Or you could casually touch his thigh, as if it’s the most normal thing in the world.
I completely agree with this article, 100 percent! I saw this on a page that was linked in a forum where a girl was bitching and moaning about how screwed up men are. But hey, don’t you get it? This is what men want. And this is what men find irresistible! Men want to be like men, and there’s nothing wrong with women displaying their femininity.
If you find yourself ruminating on the past, focus on the crappy stuff. “Any time I started slipping into ‘oh-I-miss-him-I’m-so-sad’ mode, I’d remind myself of everything that annoyed me about him—sometimes I even wrote down a list,” says Jessica, 25, from Atlanta.
Display intelligence and depth. Don’t say “like” and “um” in every sentence. Intelligence is sexy. A smart woman who knows what she wants and how to get it will attract men everywhere she goes. Displaying your intellect reveals that you have depth. This will attract men more effectively than coming across as dim.
Finding a good man can be a struggle for a lot of guys. You have to figure out where to meet them, how to approach them, and then how to gain and keep their attraction. For people that don’t naturally have good social skills, it can be like solving a puzzle. Luckily, there are techniques you can use and things you can do to not only get a man but maintain a strong and healthy relationship for the long run.
4. Business Conferences. If you’ve been meaning to do some meet-and-greets as a way of boosting your career, here’s some added incentive: Business conferences and seminars are filled with smart, ambitious men with whom you can talk shop. “Strike up a conversation around your mutual business interests, then ask ‘How did you get to where you are today?’ You’ll learn about his path of life so far, including education and goals,” says Nina Atwood, author of Be Your Own Dating Service: A Step-by-Step Guide to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Relationships (Henry Holt, 1996). Just be sure to check his left hand for a ring or tell-tale tan line. “Business events often include a certain number of men who are looking for an extra-marital fling,” says Atwood.
Women who are clear about how they feel: Men like women that display behavior that is equivalent to how they feel. Ex: If you’re angry about something, tell them the reason, they will do what they can to fix it. Do not act passive aggressive and hope that they find out the reason.
Oh, and about the non-smiling and arm crossing thing…mostly I do this when I’m not in my car and walking around L.A. by myself, so I’m guilty too. Comes from the days of selling postage meters door-to-door in Inglewood and Downey. People didn’t much care for automated postage, and let me know. Go figure.
To some degree, notions of male simplicity persist, despite growing evidence to the contrary, due to the very nature of masculinity. A recent series of experiments described in Current Directions in Psychological Science conclude that manhood is both elusive and tenuous. In one experiment, test participants associated the loss of manhood with social, impermanent things, like letting someone down, as opposed to physical things, like growing weak with age. So manhood must be earned by demonstration, and it must be demonstrated repeatedly, until we’ve shielded our vulnerability behind a haze of one-dimensional sexuality.
To another mans comment above I agree NO man wants to date some woman who is always arguing why are u even thinking about stereotype this and that blah blah blah” oh plz shut UUUPPP!!!! I giggled a little when he said Asian women lol but who cares! Don’t get so offended they are very cute and sweet is that bad to point it out ?
Your attitude shows up on your face and in your body language. Do you seem like someone ho finds life interesting? This is important. In order to look as if you find life remarkable and enjoyable, it is always a good idea to practice maintaining a slight smile, the kind that makes your eyes crinkle ever so slightly. Think Mona Lisa, or bigger if you like. Mona Lisa looks as though she finds life rather amusing; she is infinitely calm, yet mysterious—and that is a striking combination. No man wants to be around a woman who is bored, agitated or unfriendly. Depressed or angry women drive men away in droves.
We’re all animals, and you shouldn’t forget that. We may be wearing pants or walking on two feet, but that doesn’t change our primal instincts. We still chase each other and woo each other just like the animals in the wild. [Read: 23 must-know relationship advice for women]
A little eye tennis goes a long way. When you are sitting at that Starbucks, combine your smashing smile with 3-5 second eye contact. Two seconds is, “Did she just look at me?” Three seconds is, “I think she just checked me out, but maybe the guy behind me.” Four to five seconds is, “Oh, it’s on. She just checked me out. I got to talk to her!”
I received a lot of comments and feedback about two articles that I published last year: “Why Women Can’t Find a Good Man” and “Why Are Men Frustrated With Dating?”. Most of the commentary, beyond venting of frustrations on both sides, was asking for strategies to find a “good” partner. I have partially answered that question in my many articles (see the archives).
Be adaptable in any situation. Men want you to fit in at a fancy party, with beer and pizza on sports night and at a boring work function. And, he wants you to do it with ease and with no complaining. If you think that men fall in love with the “hard to get” women, think again. Not in today’s world. Today men really fall for easy-going gals who can go with the flow.
First off, the post is awesome and not because i’m in it! =) Seriously, great stuff and what an honor to be included by such an amazing collection of Male Bloggers that I share such great respect for.
Speaking from 38+ years of marriage … I want a woman who takes care of herself for me. The same as I take care of myself for her. A woman who lets herself go once she has landed her man is saying “I’m in this for me alone”. Of course the reverse is true, a man who does not take care of himself for his woman is just as guilty. Ladies and Gentlemen, successful relationships are not 50% / 50% deals, they are 100% / 100% deals. Be committed to giving your 100% all the time.
Holy shit. I’m a guy but wow… Just wow. Like, the way you describe it makes it seem to me like you basically want a dizzy slave. Why don’t you just date a child instead? Holy fuck dude. And no, men are not ‘naturally aggresive and dominant’, we’re just socialized to be that way so we get to control women. It’s people like you that’s wrong with the world. You use sexism and conservative gender roles to your advance so you can shame women for being human beings and not dolls. You tell girls that they need to be submissive cute little dolls who exist to fulfill your fantasies. If you can’t handle a real woman, with her loudness, dominance, and opinions, you’re better off single. Which I hope you do because no girl deserves to be manipulated and controlled into submission by you and guys like you.
Finding a partner often feels like an awful lot of work for very little reward. The relationship expert Matthew Hussey used to feel the same way. So he did some field research, taught himself to meet the women he was looking for, and built a business coaching other men to improve their love lives. And now he’s sharing his insights with you.
The first steps to love can get better with practice. Knowing when to give the right glance, smile, or swagger helps too. Try out the tips above. You may just get the attention of that person you are looking for…
Humans are some serious survivors. Scientists calculate that over 99.9 percent of all species that ever lived have become extinct. But not us humans. Why? Because our genetic wiring continues to evolve to always be masterful at mating and reproduction.
Have a conversation about the seriousness of the relationship. This all comes down to what you are looking for. You may be looking for a committed long-term relationship or you may just want to have fun. Either way, the guy that you’re with should understand what you want out of the relationship. Have a conversation with them about your expectations and don’t be afraid to hurt their feelings. If you wait and they make assumptions, it may end up hurting their feelings even worse later on.
It does take time to find a partner. It also takes time to date them. So, if you are serious about finding someone, you should start building a bit of “dating time” into your schedule. When you are single, that time can be used to go to singles events, or more social hobbies, and meet new people. When you find someone to date, you can use that time to go out with them. Therefore, a big part of having a plan is “planning” the time out of your schedule for a love life.
Personality and a sense of humor are pretty huge to me and, I imagine, every Tom, Dick and Harriet out there. If a girl can make me laugh that’s really a great start. I also am drawn to women that have a personality that commands attention; you know she’s in a room, hard to ignore, the personality is warm and welcoming. She gets attention without really trying, to me, that’s incredibly sexy.
Great article! I totally agree. The cuteness of a woman can tame a man’s heart and lust to find other women out there, but of course beeing sexy too. To those women that disagree with this article, stop beeing so dominant. Men are physically and etc. stronger than us women, they dont need a tougher spouse to live with, let them be the men and u be the woman a.k.a queen/princess. Are how is that? Politeness, funny, shyness, cuteness, sexyness. If u want to be the stronger spouse in the relationship, they will surely not stay long with u since it is in their nature that they are the ones who should feel masculine and strong and have responsibilities to protect and love his gf/wife. They want to feel that they are wanted, so let them lead and u as woman relax and enjoy. (Not talking bout the cooking and cleanin though lol)
This is a load of BS! I am an Asian woman and I hate the fact that we are seen as feminine, delicate, and cute! It bothers the shit out of me because it is a stereotype and I hate being labeled with that tag on me! Well, truth is. I am not one of those Asian woman who are like that because I was raised strongly and to disrespect men who does not show any respect for me. Besides, you do have to be yourself when you want to get a good guy. You can’t be fake! Once they found out that the girl was a fake the whole time just to get their attention, they will get mad.
If you want to attract anyone – wear red or pink, be confident and believe in the beauty that is you inside and out and think positive and smile. It’s that simple. Games only last so long. Go to places you normally would not go and take routes on the way home you would not normally take. Get out of a routine. Be brave, be fearless, don’t be afraid to try. You will have fun and discover more about yourself than you realize.
I divorced my husband boz he hit me almost 5 times in 2 and half years of our marriage. he apologised and promised to never do it again.but he keep saying that you also made mistakes in this period.I love him but cant trust him. what should I do
Take care of your personal hygiene. Smelling fresh and appearing clean is something that will help you attract other people. Remember to bathe every day, wear underarm deodorant, and to keep your nails clipped and clean. Having bad personal hygiene is a huge turnoff for most people, so make sure to keep it in mind while you’re looking for a mate.
I agree with the author. As a girl I would watch the guys at my highschool and I would notice that the “girly-girls” or the more feminine ones always got the hot-jock type guys. I was always on the more non-feminine side until one of my friends (a guy) mentioned that guys liked “cute” girls. It made them feel more manly. I tried acting more girly and guess what, I got a boyfriend.