[…] I am often left a little confused, when I see the decisions men make, in regards  to choosing a mate.  And really i believe that it stems from the fact that there are really just to many of us. Not in a bad way, just in a probability way. There are so many types of people with myriad hobbies and interests that it seems overwhelming to have all of the pegs align.  The other reason is that most women have pretty skewed ideas about what men actually find attractive. Yes guys, do love thongs but they also like self confidence. And girls who can talk about things not cloths, shoes, celebrities.  Sometimes the best way to get an answer is to ask the source. Here are a few guys, and what turns them on and off of a potential date.  http://www.kellyseal.com/?p=451 […]
A man wants a woman who just “gets” him. He wants her radiance and femininity to draw him in the way his masculine energy attracts her. He wants a woman who appreciates his ability to protect, provide and solve problems. He wants her to admire him for his steadiness and sense of calm under pressure. He doesn’t want to feel emasculated because he’s way more logical and analytical and doesn’t (necessarily) cry at sappy movies.
Some women are more innocent and cutesy, others more seductive and intense, others a combination of all these… some are more outgoing and expressive, others are more shy and want a man to take control.
Imperfections: Have to stress the point again, because we are so much obsessed with the cover girls that we forget being organic is being sexy. Almost every guy agrees too much makeup is a turn-off. They want to see some natural beauty in you. The mole is absolutely okay, so is the buck teeth. They tend to associate you with your marks and scars, and it makes you uniquely attractive to them and distinguish you from rest of the crowd.
I agree with this article mostly a few things I don’t agree with but everyone has there own opinion. I haven’t been single since I was 14 and let me tell you 14 and 15 I didn’t have anyone to be that serious with me because I acted to tomboyish I thought that was what guys liked plus I was still pretty imature. Before I go any further, I just wanted to say yes I sometimes think to myself I wish I would of gave single a chance more often in my life instead of being so young and boy crazy but I wouldn’t take it back any of it because it did make me learn what type of man I wanted after dating boys, it made me realize what type of man I wanted in the long run. I turned 16 I started to act more cute, flirty and girly and I started to get the guys I wanted instantly. Now I am 23 and I have the man of my dreams he is HOT! caring sweet understanding and still at the same time very manly I love it I never thought this kind of man existed I thought men like him were too snooty and had there eyes closed so why would they notice a women like me. I was always a social butterfly. 6 months ago I found this man and I couldn’t believe how he just fell completly head over heels for me. I am alot more girly now adays where I am flirty but with him smiling and laughing all the time and I show my girly side, but I also love to go fishing and out doorsy and don’t mind doing guy things with him and he really loves that about him. He is very thoughtful on top of being a hottie I have always had men be rude to me in my past maybe because I have a little insecurity or just need someone to talk to so I’d call a best friend to talk or my mom so I could talk and wouldn’t make them mad. Now I have a partner who is my best friend and the person I need to talk with and it’s fantastic. If I feel a little insecure he’s loving to me he understands I am just afraid at times the relationships going to disapear or change and it’s because it still feels like a dream because he is my dream come true so it’s like I just feel as if anyone pinches me to wake me up from this dream I am going to rip there heads off he he jk lol! but seriously I couldn’t believe I am the first women he has ever moved in with because he’s never been this serious with anyone where he wanted a life with them and that makes me feel very lucky since he has been with a various of women and could of chose any of them but its like once he found me he knew exactly what he wanted a family a life time with me. so like I said I believe this article because I have lived it.
Get over emotional baggage from previous relationships. Carrying baggage over from previous relationships can harm your current one. Throw out old mementos, pictures, and items of your ex to help you get over them.[19] Don’t make assumptions about all men because of your previous experiences and don’t think that you have an extraordinary intuition, especially when that intuition manifests negatively most of the time.
Humans are some serious survivors. Scientists calculate that over 99.9 percent of all species that ever lived have become extinct. But not us humans. Why? Because our genetic wiring continues to evolve to always be masterful at mating and reproduction.
He feels the need to be around her, and his subconscious mind tries very hard to make her feel protected, comfortable and loved around him. He loses his aggressive stance, the tone of his voice softens down, and his shoulders droop down towards her instead of spreading wide. And before he even gives attraction a second thought, he’d realize that he likes the girl already! [Read: The right way to talk to a guy and make him like you]
The solution – stop the chase. Realize that just because something is hard to get, doesn’t mean it is worth the effort. No one is worth running after. It is better to find someone who will meet you in the middle.
To some degree, notions of male simplicity persist, despite growing evidence to the contrary, due to the very nature of masculinity. A recent series of experiments described in Current Directions in Psychological Science conclude that manhood is both elusive and tenuous. In one experiment, test participants associated the loss of manhood with social, impermanent things, like letting someone down, as opposed to physical things, like growing weak with age. So manhood must be earned by demonstration, and it must be demonstrated repeatedly, until we’ve shielded our vulnerability behind a haze of one-dimensional sexuality.
The authors of The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right emphasize that in order to get a guy, a woman should always act busy—for instance, when a desirable man calls, it’s wise to set a timer to go off a few minutes later, then recite a memorized exit line, such as “Sorry, gotta go. I have a million things to do.” Here’s my crazy idea: How about actually having a million things to do? How about actually filling your life with interesting activities? If you want to attract a partner, identify what you love to do, and do it—a lot. Involved, busy people really are more attractive, so if you want to get engaged to your soul mate, start by being engaged in activities that fascinate you—especially those that have nothing to do with dating and that make you forget to go love hunting.
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In the magnetic woman tribe, we don’t do snobby, bitchy or “I’m an entitled princess” attitudes. All that comes from a place of weakness (the attitude of the 95 percent). Instead, we value women (the 5 percent) who come from a place of confidence, poise and inner strength. Women who know they are worth it deserve it, expect it and receive it. They encourage and support other women to come from that place of power.
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Men and women are desperate for uniqueness, a person with independent thoughts, not a receiver or followers of the news and trends, someone who can analyse things and come up with their her own conclusions.
Take one recent finding that runs entirely counter to popular wisdom. As the undisputed emotional champion of any relationship, women are supposed to profess their love first. But a group of researchers led by psychologist Joshua Ackerman of MIT found the axiom to be dead wrong. Their surveys of twenty- and thirtysomethings revealed that men say “I love you” first 60 to 70 percent of the time. They even thought about saying it a full six weeks before their mate did. It took about as much time for women to catch up to their men emotionally, in other words, as it took Hemingway to complete The Sun Also Rises.
Initially, you might not feel confident with the idea of taking up any extra space, but it doesn’t really matter—just act like you do anyway. Eventually your discomfort will disappear. Just keep your chin up, and most people will not suspect your anxiety. In any event, it is natural to feel a bit of shyness in taking up your given space when you first begin practicing this important art of attraction. The good news is, in time you won’t even remember why your once felt any nervousness about owning your space. So begin now. I encourage you to first learn to appreciating any small, but pleasurable detail about your surroundings—the crispness in the air, the smell of herbs in your food, the beauty of a clear sky, whether you are surrounded by a plethora of people or none at all.
When you really get what I’ve just shared and exude these nine traits, you will officially be in your man’s head — and in his heart as well. That’s because he will notice all the “logical” benefits of your wonderful traits right about the time his heart opens and “emotion” slowly enters the equation.
Men want to be with a woman who needs them on more than just a superficial level. A man wants to feel like he’s your hero and your protector. If he feels he offers nothing to the relationship that you couldn’t have on your own, then he will leave.
“A practical guide to understanding a man’s point of view about love and romance and how a woman can optimize self-esteem and integrity to find the love she deserves.” (Judith Orloff, MD, New York Times best-selling author of Emotional Freedom)
There’s little doubt that men and women think differently and see the world from two entirely different perspectives. Men expect to be influenced by women when they are in a relationship and they even WANT to be influenced by you, but there’s a right way and a wrong way to go about trying to influence a man if you want to become irresistible to him.

Talk about how you do not want to rush her and you do not want to make her feel uncomfortable in any way. Tell her that you will wait until she is ready, even if it means waiting years. She’ll appreciate these words.
You may already be aware of a number of these, but it doesn’t hurt to be reminded of them! Firstly, when you’re out with your friends do not laugh excessively at every joke men make, dance too sexily or get too drunk!
His profile had described his marital status as “separated,” which I took to mean living separately. When the truth came out, that phrase actually meant that he and his wife sometimes “separated” when she was in the kitchen directing the staff while he was in the den writing to women.
Wonderful post! I think if I could have applied this wisdom from a younger age I would not have all the relationship problems I’ve been experiencing again and again. Thanks for helping me feel there is definitely a way to not feel desperate, now I have hope. Jean X
You have been trying really hard to ask this guy out on a date and you are scared because you do not know whether he likes you back. So this article will tell you whether or not he likes you and will make all your confusions go away.
The male and female sexes still play games to win each other’s affection. Human males still like to woo a female through their display of brute strength, dexterity or their sheer awesomeness. And a man laden with male hormones wants a woman who’s graceful and feminine, because subconsciously, it makes him feel more like a man.
Well I think a lot of single mamas will tell you it’s not easy to date and take care of a young child, so kudos to you! Just so you know, there are a lot of guys out there who will be immature or not ready or willing to take on a woman with a kid. But then, there are those wonderful men who can handle it. These are the men to meet—don’t be afraid to let your dates know you have a child and being a mother (and finding a good father figure) is important to you. I married a man with kids and don’t have any myself, so it was a big transition. But well worth it. Instead of hitting the bars, try meeting guys through friends, church groups, or activities you enjoy. Good luck!
The original movie starred Mel Gibson as a marketing exec who suddenly has the ability to hear what women are thinking after a freak accident. In the remake, the roles are reversed, with Henson playing sports agent who has been constantly boxed out by her male colleagues. When she gains the power to hear men’s thoughts, she is able to shift the paradigm to her advantage as she races to sign the NBA’s next superstar.
In addition to being appreciated, men have an enormous need to feel respected. This is true of all humans, but usually this desire burns stronger in men. What I mean by respect, is she understands who he is and what he needs and gives him space to express himself without making demands on him and prioritizing herself over him.
Face: Ask a guy the definition of cuteness/beauty. I can guarantee there will be one face where you can’t find the ‘beauty’ word anywhere. But they still love that face, the spots, the freckles and every little imperfection on it. Maybe beautiful eyes, crooked nose or deep dimples. They can find something so weird in the face, so beautiful, it blows your mind.