Though I agree with Serena over the article. I will say… we as Americans are failing to appreciate our gender differences. Just read an article which may or may not be true that American men have 40% average less testosterone than 50 years ago.
It is not easy for people to find a good man, and to be honest it is not easy for a man to find a good person. This is written from a man’s perspective to help frustrated people that are sincerely looking for a good man but keep finding losers.
“The reason a woman gets hooked on one man is not because he is just sexy, or just playful, or just certain, or just masculine, or just bursting with integrity, but because he possesses a unique combination of traits: the man who is warm, has integrity, and can charm her family, then rips her clothes off in the bedroom and is a sexual god who’s willing to invest all the time she needs in foreplay; the man who is respectful with her friends, can fix things around the house and in the garage like a pro, but knows how to enjoy a lazy Sunday at the museum or craft fair; the guy who is independent, kicks ass out in the world, but is gentle and loving with his woman and lavishes attention on her. Men like this cause an alarm to go off inside a woman’s head and heart. He’s just a character in a romance novel, she thinks. Be more realistic!”
Jade….So very glad you found this article at this crucial time in your life. How kind of you to call it “brilliant.” I am flattered. But I hear you. I was used to plenty of attention as well. In my case, I started getting “older,” so I had to remind myself of all the things I had been doing differently than a fair amount of other ladies. The good news? Those things still work. Ha!
Be willing to compromise. You threaten the health of your relationship when you are unwilling to compromise. When both parties in a relationship can negotiate, it creates a healthy balance and allows both people in the relationship to be happy. Let things go and be willing to change if you care enough about the person. Keep an open mind and always show your appreciation for the guy that you’re with.
I always wonder why some women walk down the pathway the wrong side (in the office or elsewhere, I notice that behaviour mostly from women), should a gentleman get out of her path Or make her move over to the other side? What do women think of men who let them have their way and those that don’t move over to accommodate them?
Hiya sounds to me hes keeping his options open sweetheart. Maybe use Matthews methods whilst maintaining tour own life and show him what you are all about for e.g. youre fun outgoing independent etc. Be interested but not so keen-keen. Dont make mistakes like me who used to tell men that i was interested in them and the inevitable rejection used to happen. Good luck x
I enjoyed this hub tremendously, as it reminds me of the importance of confidence in the dating scene and in other circumstances. You have great ideas of the subtle things women can do to get the attention of men. Some women are naturals. but others must work at it. Thanks for sharing your ideas, Pinning hub. Blessings, Audrey
4. Business Conferences. If you’ve been meaning to do some meet-and-greets as a way of boosting your career, here’s some added incentive: Business conferences and seminars are filled with smart, ambitious men with whom you can talk shop. “Strike up a conversation around your mutual business interests, then ask ‘How did you get to where you are today?’ You’ll learn about his path of life so far, including education and goals,” says Nina Atwood, author of Be Your Own Dating Service: A Step-by-Step Guide to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Relationships (Henry Holt, 1996). Just be sure to check his left hand for a ring or tell-tale tan line. “Business events often include a certain number of men who are looking for an extra-marital fling,” says Atwood.
Once you have mastered all these steps, you will know exactly what attracts men to women scientifically, although we’re not going to get too deep into science. We have tried them out for you, and these really work! So start working on your smile and confidence, relax and get ready to woo a guy with your natural charm! It’s all it takes. And no matter what you read or hear out there, you don’t have to be a successful, independent business woman to be attractive to men. Just be yourself, and let your personality shine through!
“One of the ironies of the day is how proficient so many women are at choosing men who communicate poorly by assuming those men who are most responsive to the female’s ‘signals’ provide the best relationships.”
Please re-read point 1 in the article and the article cited under it. The problem isn’t with the guy who is close in distance. The problem is that you feel “emotionally and sexually drawn” to your long-distance bf because he is scarce and unattainable. Essentially, your emotions are being “tricked” by the long-distance situation to be more intense than they really are. If the situation was reversed, with your bf being close and your friend living far away, you would “desire” the friend and be less interested in your bf. Feeling strong desire for someone “hard to get” is a big issue.
Maybe you feel like you don’t know why men are deeply attracted to some women and not to others. It could feel like you’re flying blind, and you don’t know how to get the guy you want interested in you.
Finding a good man may appear to be difficult but it doesn’t have to be. The key is learning how to manage your emotions and take actions which increase your chances of finding the type of man you are looking for.
There were some things that were right, but others that were just your opinion or thought. Plenty of men are turned on by and love a strong (confident not muscley) proud woman who takes charge and exudes sexiness. You can still be flurty and cute without tilting your head down like a moron.
Relationships need a lot of effort, but sometimes it’s not easy to figure out where you should be directing that effort. Want to be more successful in dating? Then you’ll want to follow these simple steps for how to make a man fall in love with you, because believe it or not, there is actually a formula. It might not be magic, but it’s as close to a magic as you can get — and it’s also far more reliable.
Now as for what I desire, I will tell you, but honestly I’m just doing it to show you how the desires of a gender can’t easily be generalized and that the can contrast greatly depending on an individual.
It’s all about developing some “Savoir-faire” which literally means, “knowing how to do.” And once you do, you will have no difficulty in getting the attention of desirable men. You don’t have to bend over backwards or flutter your eyelashes to attract him. Rather, you simply have to create a tiny bit of mystique to draw him in.
The key to most of these is that you are comfortable. If you are not comfortable then there is no point in doing any of these things. If you are, though, it will come off as extremely sexy. Being comfortable is sexy.
Men and women are designed to be complements, not “equals”. In other words, men are designed to excel in certain areas of a relationship (administration, logical thinking, etc.), and women are also designed to excel in different areas of a relationship (nurturing, emotions, etc.). The abilities are equal, but they are DIFFERENT AND COMPLEMENTARY abilities.
Move forward by not actually being able to go backward: Hide your ex on chat, delete his phone number, defriend him on Facebook and unfollow his Twitter. And we’re not just talking about ex-boyfriends—this includes ex-hookups, ex-booty calls, ex-FWBs and any other Bad News Dudes.
► Composure: Men love nothing more than a woman who can handle situations calmly. No erratic behaviour. No cantankerousness. No yelling. No crazy stuff. I am not denying that some men are irrational. However, those irrational people are not attractive. When a person knows that they’re not always right and are willing to reason, the attractiveness quadruples.
The solution – looking for a good partner, not a perfect one. There are simply better and worse partners out there. Some are more fit for a relationship than others. There is not, however, a “perfect and unique fit” for each of us. The best that can be hoped for is finding a reasonably-compatible person, who will be willing to cooperate, and working with them to create a mutually-satisfying exchange. Yes, this is far less romantic…but it works!
Guys LOVE confident, independent women. Just remember not to be OVERLY independent or you’ll make him feel like he’s not needed. The trick is to find a balance between making your man feel needed without making him feel like you’re clinging to him.